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Sharon Burton, Maryland

“Great talent to help you define life’s priorities, especially for busy creatives like me”

– Sharon, Maryland

“Helped me to focus on the areas that I need to focus on to ensure a healthy work life balance”

 

“Adrienne has a great talent to help you define life’s priorities, especially for busy creatives like me.  I encourage everyone to try the 30 Second Challenge as a measure of where you are in your life, it helped me to focus on the areas that I need to focus on to ensure a healthy work life balance.”

– Sharon Burton, Maryland
Art Advisor 

 

 

 

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Ray Smith, Maryland

“Emails are so empowering and I read them over and over to help me create positive mindsets and balance.” – Ray, Maryland

 

RaySmith_300x300“Good Morning Adrienne,

Thank You for including me on your list to receive your awesome thoughts, teachings, encouragements, and blessings. I find what your writing as MUST READING, and I read them over and over, make notes on how to apply them to everyday life. I’m feeling blessed to have met you and to be a recipient of your newsletter. Please, Please keep me on your list.

Your emails are so empowering and I read them over and over to help me create positive mindsets and balance. I’ve also been reading a lot of Joel Osteen but I’m finding your readings are speaking to me in a more personal manner.

Please continue your e-letters and your overall message because I’m positive they are helping folks.

You are a blessing and I’m believing in what you’re putting out in the universe. Thanks again.”

– Ray Smith, Maryland

 

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The Most Stubborn Person In Your Life

Who is the most stubborn person in your life?

I’m sure you have heard that everyone in our life is there for a reason, even if for just a season. Sometimes those people in our lives that irritate us are there to serve an important, maybe even painful, lesson about where we need to grow in ourselves. This week, I want to highlight the Soul Power Life Area of Personal Growth.

So today, let’s focus on lessons from that stubborn person in your life. There might be several names that come to mind. All the better! Take a moment to respond to the follow questions about this person- or persons collectively- as we identify some of the lessons they are here to teach us.

What makes them a stubborn person?

Do they they identify with being stubborn or do they consider their stubbornness to be something else?

How can you tell when they are being stubborn?

What bugs you the most when they are being stubborn?

How do you deal with them when they are being stubborn?

Would their life be different if they were not so stubborn? How?

What is the biggest reason for them to stop being so stubborn?

Did you record your answers? I hope so. If not, take a moment to respond to each question now.

You see, here’s the thing about stubbornness or any other emotion that we see showing up in others:

What We See In Others Is A Direct Reflection of Our Own Self

A person wiser than me said that the opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference.

What part of how you described that person also describes you on some level? [See Answer Below]

Perhaps the reason that person came into your mind is because the part of them that you described resonates with something inside you. Something about who you are now, something about who you use to be, or something you desire to become is sensitive to the commonality. Game recognize game so to speak.

You might be ready to accept that. Or you might not – we know how stubborn you can be. (<<First Name>> see what I just did there?)

The bright side of this is that stubborn people, like us, know how to be determined, consistent, tough, and we know what we think we want.

The not so good news is that our stubbornness usually comes hard at us with rational thinking and good excuses to create toxic levels of self sabotage and resistance, discouraging us from living with purpose and unspeakable joy.

Stubbornness comes from that part of you that wants things to be safe, secure, familiar, and predictable. For better or worse, it wants you to stay right where you are limited by your fears, pride, and competitive self. Stubbornness can be stubborn even when it knows there is a better way.

I invite you to consider your responses and find new ways to deal with your stubbornness for the very reasons you listed above.

Today, make the decision to use stubbornness as a signal. When you recognize yourself being stubborn, make a conscious decision to stretch into something new like courage, collaboration, or creativity. Will you do this? Was this insightful? I hope so!

Love, Peace, & Happiness,
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™

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Whoa! No Wonder Your But Looks So Big!

I’m so sorry, that I had to be the one to tell you….

Now wait just a second! I said your BUT looks big not your butt!

I’m talking about those times when you are inspired to be your most Powerful Purposeful Self in any of your 12 Soul Power Life Areas Too often, we don’t get moving with any sense of urgency or we start down the road in the direction of our purpose when doubts and fears begin to creep up from behind.

We all have an instinct to protect and shield ourselves from hurt, harm, and danger. If we are not careful, we will use our Great Big But as a reason to stay in or return to our comfort zone.

Be honest, how often do you find yourself sidetracked by how your Great Big But looks? I want you to remember this – your but only looks big to show you where you are making lame excuses to yourself and others about why you are not living more consistently as your most Powerful Purposeful Self.

Yes, I know it sounds like a really great reason and I have to be honest with you –

It’s not a great reason it’s just your Great Big But.

Yes, I know you feel rational and think you are justified by the story you’re telling yourself.

The truth is, you’re just letting all that junk in your trunk slow down your progress.

Anytime you hear yourself saying you want to do or experience something BUT

you’re AFRAID

you’re TOO BUSY

you CAN’T AFFORD IT

you feel OVERWHELMED and don’t know what to do first

You might hear your Great Big But say that you feel like you’re in a good place right now, OR you don’t know how it will work out, OR you don’t think you can, OR you don’t have the help, OR you think it was all just a coincidence, OR you don’t feel worthy, OR you keep getting in your own way, & one of the most dangerous Sir Mix-a-Lot remixes of all time

I will do it, BUT NOT RIGHT NOW.

This week, I’m challenging you to reduce the Great Big But Print that you’ve put on your purpose. Pay close attention to how you swing that big but of yours around this week. Allow your but to act just like a Danger Wide Load sign hanging off the back of a flatbed trailer – your but is telling you something important.

When you don’t pay attention to where you swing that big but, you might just be unintentionally bumping the people and things that have been placed in your life at this moment to guide you to the next level.

What are you saying no to because you’re making your but look so much bigger than it really is?

How are you hiding out of fear that someone will notice and judge you because of your big but?

What if you’re but really isn’t as big as it looks?

How often can you hear and challenge your own but?

If you or someone you know wants to know exactly how to shake and move your Great Big But, get up off that thang and dial till you feel better 703.405.2029.

Love, Peace, & Happiness,
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™

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May I Ask For Your Forgiveness?

I must ask for your forgiveness.

Would you be kind enough to indulge this humble request from the bottom of my heart? Don’t do it for me, do it for your Soul Power Life Area of HEALTH

Please let me explain…

You see, last week I wrote about the time in your life when you crashed and burned.

I may have brought up some things that you didn’t want to think about.

I could have reminded you of some time in your life that you don’t want to revisit.

I may have sent you back to that time that you weren’t too fond of yourself and how you behaved.

You may have been thinking I was insane.

Did I really have the nerve to suggest that you celebrate such a terrible mistake and complete failure?

Why would I ask you to pay attention to your errors, goofs and flaws?

Seriously, who does that?!

I mean, there may be some less severe mistakes that you could think to celebrate but I’m talking about that one horrible, terrible, complete, and painful failure that you can’t seem to get past.

The failure you tried to forget as soon as you thought about it. The one you had not allowed yourself to think of in quite some time. You almost fooled yourself into thinking it was forgotten. There was absolutely nothing to celebrate about it. There was nothing redeeming about how things turned out. I was just bad all around. And here I come bringing it up again.

Yes, I take full responsibility for asking you to do that and I am sincerely and humbly asking for your forgiveness. So…

Please forgive yourself.

Yes, forgive yourself. It feels terrible just thinking about any celebration of that mistake because you have not forgiven yourself. You cannot see how that moment does not define you until you are willing to forgive yourself. You cannot see how that moment is shaping you today because you have not faced it and let it go. You haven’t learned much from it other than more ineffective ways of pushing those feeling away.

Aren’t we all human?

Don’t we all make mistakes?

Haven’t you forgiven others for what they have done?

Don’t you deserve a fresh start?

Are you willing to begin the celebration with forgiveness?

Release it.

Allow yourself to move forward into a better place.

Don’t make excuses for what happened.

Stop beating yourself up for what you did.

No, this is not about finding fault.

There is power in owning your own actions.

Acknowledge your remorse, your guilt, your anger, your disappointment.

Let go of the shame

Offer a sincere apology to yourself

Then, when you are ready, accept your apology.

How do you feel about forgiving yourself for that total failure? What are you blocking from your life because you haven’t forgiven yourself? How are you impatcing your own health and well being holding a grudge?

If you find yourself unable to forgive yourself, please let me know. I have some simple tools that can help you become more open and receiving of your own forgiveness. Give me a call right now 703.405.2029.

Love, Peace, & Happiness,
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™

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Are You On Fraud Alert?

I know I do. Lately it seems like the fraud protection police have a special satellite precinct in my thoughts just to manufacture doubts and fears about my qualification to serve my unique life purpose.

People like to say there are three sides to every story – your side, their side and the truth. I imagine this is also true when you think about who you are. There is how you appear to yourself, how others perceive you, and the truth. I’ve noticed it isn’t really about when other people question my authenticity or integrity. Basic inquiries are a part of life and I’m learning generally not to be offended or angered by them because they usually aren’t about me anyway. It’s just those Internal Fraud Alerts that really get me. Boy do they know how to stop me in my tracks!

No matter how much energy, effort, and training I place into being well prepared, I have this worry about not being capable enough, not being real enough, not being good enough – being a fraud. The more I achieve, the louder this voice has grown over the years.

As if one day someone will pull back the curtain and the great and powerful Oz will be exposed- as human! [Gasp! Hey wait, aren’t we all human anyway? What’s the big deal?] The fraud alerts are typically about the difference between who we think we are and who we get tricked into thinking we “SHOULD” be. How often to you have thoughts like

  • Who in the world do I think I am to do/create/share this?
  • They will probably not want to hear this from me because I’m too [insert random distinction].
  • What makes me think I should be doing this?
  • Maybe someone else should be the one to step up.
  • What if they find out that I am actually – or not actually [insert random human qualitytoo!

This internal fraud alert is always false. ALWAYS! Besides, if you are like me and look behind your own curtain there’s a whole lot more there than just smoke and mirrors. There is a whole warehouse full of experience, preparation, talent, blood, sweat, and tears. The things we live through play a role in shaping who we are and what makes us so unique to our purpose.

We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?
– Marianne Anderson, A Return to Love

The very fact that you are who you are makes you EXACTLY the right person for that purpose, that gift, that calling. The fraud alert usually sounds as I am allowing my unique light to shine by stepping into a bigger version of my unique purpose. If I am thinking of showing a new level of transparency or imperfection, my fraud alert runs wild.

Your ego likes to keep you in your comfort zone playing small. The ego unleashes this fraud alert as you are stepping into a larger portion of your purpose. It uses your deepest doubts and fears about who you are or how powerful you can be against you. The higher the stakes, the louder the alert. Your ego knows exactly what spot to hit to bring up your fears and defenses. I might be the only one, but my fraud alert has even gone as far as to attack someone else’s credibility or interests to keep me playing small.

Remember, this internal fraud alert is always false. ALWAYS!

This week I want to challenge you to pay attention to your fraud alert.

  • When does your fraud alert sound?
  • How does it serve as a signal to you?
  • What is your regular reaction to your fraud alert?
  • Is there another choice of responses and which one serves your highest and most powerfully authentic self?
  • What do you notice about your thoughts based on how you handle a fraud alert?
  • What are you learning about how you see yourself based on your fraud alert?

If you are getting a bit nervous, bored, or even defensive reading those questions, congratulations! Your fraud alert is already kicking in. Will you do this challenge for this week?

I hope so!

Love, Peace, & Happiness,
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™

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Oh, Maybe THAT’s Why You’re Not Getting Results!

Have you ever noticed how the positive energy of one person can shift the mood in the entire room? You know the people you just want to be around. Maybe it’s the one you love or your really funny coworker. You have felt your own energy (mood) lift just being in their presence. We are all made up of energy that attracts and repels people and things into our life. It’s a cycle of positive cause and effect. What are you attracting and repelling?

Ideally, it works with your Soul Power Life Area of PERSONAL GROWTH this way:

Your Constructive Thoughts are creating your Positive Energy, your Positive Energy is creating your Powerful Beliefs, your Powerful Beliefs are showing up as your Productive Actions, your Productive Actions are reinforcing your Constructive Thoughts.

Far too often, our cycle actually looks more like this:

Your Destructive Thoughts are creating your Negative Energy, Your Negative Energy is creating your Defensive Beliefs, Your Defensive Beliefs are showing up as your Unproductive Actions. Your Unproductive Actions are reinforcing your Destructive Thoughts. Wow, maybe THAT’s why you’re not getting results.

  • If you really want to do something in any of your life areas but you’re frustrated because you just don’t know why you are not doing it already,
  • If you’ve been working so hard to reach a purposeful goal but you know you keep getting in your own way,
  • If you started out with loads of enthusiasm for that fantastic idea and now you wonder how it was replaced with overwhelm,
  • If you find yourself saying that you “Should” or “Could” or “Would” be doing “ABC” if only “XYZ” wasn’t so

It is very likely that you have underlying beliefs that are directly blocking your intended results like an All-Pro NFL Linebacker. These beliefs are the unwritten rules or programming code to your game plan. I hope this begins to make sense when you know that about

95% of Your Thoughts Are Coming From the Underlying Beliefs that You Hold in Your Subconscious Mind

No wonder, like Tevin Campbell sings “We go round and round and round And what we’re looking for, still isn’t found”

Unfortunately, those beliefs will continue to directly conflict with what you really want and block you from your intended results until you rewrite your rules by creating a new game plan that your subconscious linebacker will understand.

Just trying harder or getting more motivated or being extra positive isn’t going to resolve that conflicting belief. Pep talks, platitudes, organization and discipline will do very little to help you here. It’s just trashtalk and you’re still gonna get blocked.

So, what’s blocking your results?

I am challenging you to begin noticing how those underlying rules may not be serving your purpose and are blocking your results. Simply using tools like your life purpose, Soul Power Life Area Cards, and your own wisdom from Powerful Purposeful You, you can begin to pinpoint that negative energy and begin replacing the plays that are creating that unproductive cycle. Even the most stubborn and persistent rules can be rewritten when you target those underlying beliefs with the right energy shifting game plan.

This week, will you begin pay attention to where the productive or destructive beliefs are showing up in your life? I hope so!

Please let me know if you would like some help with this challenge. I want you to learn how to do amazing things with your purpose, wisdom and power!

Love, Peace, & Happiness,
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™

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Your Friend or Your Coach

Do you know when to call on one or the other?

This week, I want to highlight the Soul Power Life Area of Friends *in my Whodini voice*

In the past year, I have been repeatedly asked to clarify the differences between a friend and what I do as a Soul Power Coach™. I am both a friend and a coach to many people. Here’s a handy dandy guide to help you clarify when you might want to work with a coach or talk to a good friend:

A Coach is a professionally certified listening ear scheduled at regular intervals to help you learn how to be more focused, consistent, and accountable

A Friend listens as often as they can because that is what good friends do for each other

A Friendship is based on mutual support and concern

A Coach relationship is all about support and concern for what is important to you

A Coach partners with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential (This is the ICF Definition)

A Friend attaches to another person by feelings of affection, personal regard, mutual interests, and fun

A Friend may or may not keep the confidence of what you decide to share. A true friend can be trusted to do this. Often you will not know if they are a true friend until they show you otherwise

A Coach agrees to hold your confidence in the highest regard, creating a safe space for you to process your thoughts and feelings. This confidence is outlined in a client agreement

A Coach empowers you put systems and processes in place to help you achieve the results you want to create

A Friend makes great suggestions for what has worked for them or someone they know. They may even be willing to “walk with you” through building new habits

A Friend becomes and important part of your tribal circle of support

A Coach helps you assess and build your tribal circle of support

A Coach relationship is designed to end

A Friendship is designed to last

A good friend and a good coach both provide a soft safe place for you to land, hope, dream, heal, laugh, cry, & be yourself. If you are thinking of hiring a coach to be a friend, there are better ways to throw away your money. If you are using your friend as a coach, this may explain why they are sending your calls straight to voicemail.

If you are still not sure if you need a friend or a coach, call me and let’s talk about it 703.405.2029.

Love, Peace, & Happiness,
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™