Monthly Archives : July 2012

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Are You On Fraud Alert?

July 31, 2012

I know I do. Lately it seems like the fraud protection police have a special satellite precinct in my thoughts just to manufacture doubts and fears about my qualification to serve my unique life purpose.

People like to say there are three sides to every story – your side, their side and the truth. I imagine this is also true when you think about who you are. There is how you appear to yourself, how others perceive you, and the truth. I’ve noticed it isn’t really about when other people question my authenticity or integrity. Basic inquiries are a part of life and I’m learning generally not to be offended or angered by them because they usually aren’t about me anyway. It’s just those Internal Fraud Alerts that really get me. Boy do they know how to stop me in my tracks!

No matter how much energy, effort, and training I place into being well prepared, I have this worry about not being capable enough, not being real enough, not being good enough – being a fraud. The more I achieve, the louder this voice has grown over the years.

As if one day someone will pull back the curtain and the great and powerful Oz will be exposed- as human! [Gasp! Hey wait, aren’t we all human anyway? What’s the big deal?] The fraud alerts are typically about the difference between who we think we are and who we get tricked into thinking we “SHOULD” be. How often to you have thoughts like

  • Who in the world do I think I am to do/create/share this?
  • They will probably not want to hear this from me because I’m too [insert random distinction].
  • What makes me think I should be doing this?
  • Maybe someone else should be the one to step up.
  • What if they find out that I am actually – or not actually [insert random human quality] too!

This internal fraud alert is always false. ALWAYS! Besides, if you are like me and look behind your own curtain there’s a whole lot more there than just smoke and mirrors. There is a whole warehouse full of experience, preparation, talent, blood, sweat, and tears. The things we live through play a role in shaping who we are and what makes us so unique to our purpose.

We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?
– Marianne Anderson, A Return to Love

The very fact that you are who you are makes you EXACTLY the right person for that purpose, that gift, that calling. The fraud alert usually sounds as I am allowing my unique light to shine by stepping into a bigger version of my unique purpose. If I am thinking of showing a new level of transparency or imperfection, my fraud alert runs wild.

Your ego likes to keep you in your comfort zone playing small. The ego unleashes this fraud alert as you are stepping into a larger portion of your purpose. It uses your deepest doubts and fears about who you are or how powerful you can be against you. The higher the stakes, the louder the alert. Your ego knows exactly what spot to hit to bring up your fears and defenses. I might be the only one, but my fraud alert has even gone as far as to attack someone else’s credibility or interests to keep me playing small.

Remember, this internal fraud alert is always false. ALWAYS!

This week I want to challenge you to pay attention to your fraud alert.

  • When does your fraud alert sound?
  • How does it serve as a signal to you?
  • What is your regular reaction to your fraud alert?
  • Is there another choice of responses and which one serves your highest and most powerfully authentic self?
  • What do you notice about your thoughts based on how you handle a fraud alert?
  • What are you learning about how you see yourself based on your fraud alert?

If you are getting a bit nervous, bored, or even defensive reading those questions, congratulations! Your fraud alert is already kicking in. Will you do this challenge for this week?

I hope so!

Love, Peace, & Happiness,
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™

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Oh, Maybe THAT’s Why You’re Not Getting Results!

July 25, 2012

Have you ever noticed how the positive energy of one person can shift the mood in the entire room? You know the people you just want to be around. Maybe it’s the one you love or your really funny coworker. You have felt your own energy (mood) lift just being in their presence. We are all made up of energy that attracts and repels people and things into our life. It’s a cycle of positive cause and effect. What are you attracting and repelling?

Ideally, it works with your Soul Power Life Area of PERSONAL GROWTH this way:

Your Constructive Thoughts are creating your Positive Energy, your Positive Energy is creating your Powerful Beliefs, your Powerful Beliefs are showing up as your Productive Actions, your Productive Actions are reinforcing your Constructive Thoughts.

Far too often, our cycle actually looks more like this:

Your Destructive Thoughts are creating your Negative Energy, Your Negative Energy is creating your Defensive Beliefs, Your Defensive Beliefs are showing up as your Unproductive Actions. Your Unproductive Actions are reinforcing your Destructive Thoughts. Wow, maybe THAT’s why you’re not getting results.

  • If you really want to do something in any of your life areas but you’re frustrated because you just don’t know why you are not doing it already,
  • If you’ve been working so hard to reach a purposeful goal but you know you keep getting in your own way,
  • If you started out with loads of enthusiasm for that fantastic idea and now you wonder how it was replaced with overwhelm,
  • If you find yourself saying that you “Should” or “Could” or “Would” be doing “ABC” if only “XYZ” wasn’t so

It is very likely that you have underlying beliefs that are directly blocking your intended results like an All-Pro NFL Linebacker. These beliefs are the unwritten rules or programming code to your game plan. I hope this begins to make sense when you know that about

95% of Your Thoughts Are Coming From the Underlying Beliefs that You Hold in Your Subconscious Mind

No wonder, like Tevin Campbell sings “We go round and round and round And what we’re looking for, still isn’t found”

Unfortunately, those beliefs will continue to directly conflict with what you really want and block you from your intended results until you rewrite your rules by creating a new game plan that your subconscious linebacker will understand.

Just trying harder or getting more motivated or being extra positive isn’t going to resolve that conflicting belief. Pep talks, platitudes, organization and discipline will do very little to help you here. It’s just trashtalk and you’re still gonna get blocked.

So, what’s blocking your results?

I am challenging you to begin noticing how those underlying rules may not be serving your purpose and are blocking your results. Simply using tools like your life purpose, Soul Power Life Area Cards, and your own wisdom from Powerful Purposeful You, you can begin to pinpoint that negative energy and begin replacing the plays that are creating that unproductive cycle. Even the most stubborn and persistent rules can be rewritten when you target those underlying beliefs with the right energy shifting game plan.

This week, will you begin pay attention to where the productive or destructive beliefs are showing up in your life? I hope so!

Please let me know if you would like some help with this challenge. I want you to learn how to do amazing things with your purpose, wisdom and power!

Love, Peace, & Happiness,
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™

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Your Friend or Your Coach

July 20, 2012

Do you know when to call on one or the other?

This week, I want to highlight the Soul Power Life Area of Friends *in my Whodini voice*

In the past year, I have been repeatedly asked to clarify the differences between a friend and what I do as a Soul Power Coach™. I am both a friend and a coach to many people. Here’s a handy dandy guide to help you clarify when you might want to work with a coach or talk to a good friend:

A Coach is a professionally certified listening ear scheduled at regular intervals to help you learn how to be more focused, consistent, and accountable

A Friend listens as often as they can because that is what good friends do for each other

A Friendship is based on mutual support and concern

A Coach relationship is all about support and concern for what is important to you

A Coach partners with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential (This is the ICF Definition)

A Friend attaches to another person by feelings of affection, personal regard, mutual interests, and fun

A Friend may or may not keep the confidence of what you decide to share. A true friend can be trusted to do this. Often you will not know if they are a true friend until they show you otherwise

A Coach agrees to hold your confidence in the highest regard, creating a safe space for you to process your thoughts and feelings. This confidence is outlined in a client agreement

A Coach empowers you put systems and processes in place to help you achieve the results you want to create

A Friend makes great suggestions for what has worked for them or someone they know. They may even be willing to “walk with you” through building new habits

A Friend becomes and important part of your tribal circle of support

A Coach helps you assess and build your tribal circle of support

A Coach relationship is designed to end

A Friendship is designed to last

A good friend and a good coach both provide a soft safe place for you to land, hope, dream, heal, laugh, cry, & be yourself. If you are thinking of hiring a coach to be a friend, there are better ways to throw away your money. If you are using your friend as a coach, this may explain why they are sending your calls straight to voicemail.

If you are still not sure if you need a friend or a coach, call me and let’s talk about it 703.405.2029.

Love, Peace, & Happiness,
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™