Monthly Archives : August 2012

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The Most Stubborn Person In Your Life

August 16, 2012

Who is the most stubborn person in your life?

I’m sure you have heard that everyone in our life is there for a reason, even if for just a season. Sometimes those people in our lives that irritate us are there to serve an important, maybe even painful, lesson about where we need to grow in ourselves. This week, I want to highlight the Soul Power Life Area of Personal Growth.

So today, let’s focus on lessons from that stubborn person in your life. There might be several names that come to mind. All the better! Take a moment to respond to the follow questions about this person- or persons collectively- as we identify some of the lessons they are here to teach us.

What makes them a stubborn person?

Do they they identify with being stubborn or do they consider their stubbornness to be something else?

How can you tell when they are being stubborn?

What bugs you the most when they are being stubborn?

How do you deal with them when they are being stubborn?

Would their life be different if they were not so stubborn? How?

What is the biggest reason for them to stop being so stubborn?

Did you record your answers? I hope so. If not, take a moment to respond to each question now.

You see, here’s the thing about stubbornness or any other emotion that we see showing up in others:

What We See In Others Is A Direct Reflection of Our Own Self

A person wiser than me said that the opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference.

What part of how you described that person also describes you on some level? [See Answer Below]

Perhaps the reason that person came into your mind is because the part of them that you described resonates with something inside you. Something about who you are now, something about who you use to be, or something you desire to become is sensitive to the commonality. Game recognize game so to speak.

You might be ready to accept that. Or you might not – we know how stubborn you can be. (<<First Name>> see what I just did there?)

The bright side of this is that stubborn people, like us, know how to be determined, consistent, tough, and we know what we think we want.

The not so good news is that our stubbornness usually comes hard at us with rational thinking and good excuses to create toxic levels of self sabotage and resistance, discouraging us from living with purpose and unspeakable joy.

Stubbornness comes from that part of you that wants things to be safe, secure, familiar, and predictable. For better or worse, it wants you to stay right where you are limited by your fears, pride, and competitive self. Stubbornness can be stubborn even when it knows there is a better way.

I invite you to consider your responses and find new ways to deal with your stubbornness for the very reasons you listed above.

Today, make the decision to use stubbornness as a signal. When you recognize yourself being stubborn, make a conscious decision to stretch into something new like courage, collaboration, or creativity. Will you do this? Was this insightful? I hope so!

Love, Peace, & Happiness,
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™

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Whoa! No Wonder Your But Looks So Big!

August 16, 2012

I’m so sorry, that I had to be the one to tell you….

Now wait just a second! I said your BUT looks big not your butt!

I’m talking about those times when you are inspired to be your most Powerful Purposeful Self in any of your 12 Soul Power Life Areas Too often, we don’t get moving with any sense of urgency or we start down the road in the direction of our purpose when doubts and fears begin to creep up from behind.

We all have an instinct to protect and shield ourselves from hurt, harm, and danger. If we are not careful, we will use our Great Big But as a reason to stay in or return to our comfort zone.

Be honest, how often do you find yourself sidetracked by how your Great Big But looks? I want you to remember this – your but only looks big to show you where you are making lame excuses to yourself and others about why you are not living more consistently as your most Powerful Purposeful Self.

Yes, I know it sounds like a really great reason and I have to be honest with you –

It’s not a great reason it’s just your Great Big But.

Yes, I know you feel rational and think you are justified by the story you’re telling yourself.

The truth is, you’re just letting all that junk in your trunk slow down your progress.

Anytime you hear yourself saying you want to do or experience something BUT

you’re AFRAID

you’re TOO BUSY

you CAN’T AFFORD IT

you feel OVERWHELMED and don’t know what to do first

You might hear your Great Big But say that you feel like you’re in a good place right now, OR you don’t know how it will work out, OR you don’t think you can, OR you don’t have the help, OR you think it was all just a coincidence, OR you don’t feel worthy, OR you keep getting in your own way, & one of the most dangerous Sir Mix-a-Lot remixes of all time

I will do it, BUT NOT RIGHT NOW.

This week, I’m challenging you to reduce the Great Big But Print that you’ve put on your purpose. Pay close attention to how you swing that big but of yours around this week. Allow your but to act just like a Danger Wide Load sign hanging off the back of a flatbed trailer – your but is telling you something important.

When you don’t pay attention to where you swing that big but, you might just be unintentionally bumping the people and things that have been placed in your life at this moment to guide you to the next level.

What are you saying no to because you’re making your but look so much bigger than it really is?

How are you hiding out of fear that someone will notice and judge you because of your big but?

What if you’re but really isn’t as big as it looks?

How often can you hear and challenge your own but?

If you or someone you know wants to know exactly how to shake and move your Great Big But, get up off that thang and dial till you feel better 703.405.2029.

Love, Peace, & Happiness,
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™

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May I Ask For Your Forgiveness?

August 1, 2012

I must ask for your forgiveness.

Would you be kind enough to indulge this humble request from the bottom of my heart? Don’t do it for me, do it for your Soul Power Life Area of HEALTH

Please let me explain…

You see, last week I wrote about the time in your life when you crashed and burned.

I may have brought up some things that you didn’t want to think about.

I could have reminded you of some time in your life that you don’t want to revisit.

I may have sent you back to that time that you weren’t too fond of yourself and how you behaved.

You may have been thinking I was insane.

Did I really have the nerve to suggest that you celebrate such a terrible mistake and complete failure?

Why would I ask you to pay attention to your errors, goofs and flaws?

Seriously, who does that?!

I mean, there may be some less severe mistakes that you could think to celebrate but I’m talking about that one horrible, terrible, complete, and painful failure that you can’t seem to get past.

The failure you tried to forget as soon as you thought about it. The one you had not allowed yourself to think of in quite some time. You almost fooled yourself into thinking it was forgotten. There was absolutely nothing to celebrate about it. There was nothing redeeming about how things turned out. I was just bad all around. And here I come bringing it up again.

Yes, I take full responsibility for asking you to do that and I am sincerely and humbly asking for your forgiveness. So…

Please forgive yourself.

Yes, forgive yourself. It feels terrible just thinking about any celebration of that mistake because you have not forgiven yourself. You cannot see how that moment does not define you until you are willing to forgive yourself. You cannot see how that moment is shaping you today because you have not faced it and let it go. You haven’t learned much from it other than more ineffective ways of pushing those feeling away.

Aren’t we all human?

Don’t we all make mistakes?

Haven’t you forgiven others for what they have done?

Don’t you deserve a fresh start?

Are you willing to begin the celebration with forgiveness?

Release it.

Allow yourself to move forward into a better place.

Don’t make excuses for what happened.

Stop beating yourself up for what you did.

No, this is not about finding fault.

There is power in owning your own actions.

Acknowledge your remorse, your guilt, your anger, your disappointment.

Let go of the shame

Offer a sincere apology to yourself

Then, when you are ready, accept your apology.

How do you feel about forgiving yourself for that total failure? What are you blocking from your life because you haven’t forgiven yourself? How are you impatcing your own health and well being holding a grudge?

If you find yourself unable to forgive yourself, please let me know. I have some simple tools that can help you become more open and receiving of your own forgiveness. Give me a call right now 703.405.2029.

Love, Peace, & Happiness,
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™