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The Most Stubborn Person In Your Life

Who is the most stubborn person in your life?

I’m sure you have heard that everyone in our life is there for a reason, even if for just a season. Sometimes those people in our lives that irritate us are there to serve an important, maybe even painful, lesson about where we need to grow in ourselves. This week, I want to highlight the Soul Power Life Area of Personal Growth.

So today, let’s focus on lessons from that stubborn person in your life. There might be several names that come to mind. All the better! Take a moment to respond to the follow questions about this person- or persons collectively- as we identify some of the lessons they are here to teach us.

What makes them a stubborn person?

Do they they identify with being stubborn or do they consider their stubbornness to be something else?

How can you tell when they are being stubborn?

What bugs you the most when they are being stubborn?

How do you deal with them when they are being stubborn?

Would their life be different if they were not so stubborn? How?

What is the biggest reason for them to stop being so stubborn?

Did you record your answers? I hope so. If not, take a moment to respond to each question now.

You see, here’s the thing about stubbornness or any other emotion that we see showing up in others:

What We See In Others Is A Direct Reflection of Our Own Self

A person wiser than me said that the opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference.

What part of how you described that person also describes you on some level? [See Answer Below]

Perhaps the reason that person came into your mind is because the part of them that you described resonates with something inside you. Something about who you are now, something about who you use to be, or something you desire to become is sensitive to the commonality. Game recognize game so to speak.

You might be ready to accept that. Or you might not – we know how stubborn you can be. (<<First Name>> see what I just did there?)

The bright side of this is that stubborn people, like us, know how to be determined, consistent, tough, and we know what we think we want.

The not so good news is that our stubbornness usually comes hard at us with rational thinking and good excuses to create toxic levels of self sabotage and resistance, discouraging us from living with purpose and unspeakable joy.

Stubbornness comes from that part of you that wants things to be safe, secure, familiar, and predictable. For better or worse, it wants you to stay right where you are limited by your fears, pride, and competitive self. Stubbornness can be stubborn even when it knows there is a better way.

I invite you to consider your responses and find new ways to deal with your stubbornness for the very reasons you listed above.

Today, make the decision to use stubbornness as a signal. When you recognize yourself being stubborn, make a conscious decision to stretch into something new like courage, collaboration, or creativity. Will you do this? Was this insightful? I hope so!

Love, Peace, & Happiness,
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™

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Your Friend or Your Coach

Do you know when to call on one or the other?

This week, I want to highlight the Soul Power Life Area of Friends *in my Whodini voice*

In the past year, I have been repeatedly asked to clarify the differences between a friend and what I do as a Soul Power Coach™. I am both a friend and a coach to many people. Here’s a handy dandy guide to help you clarify when you might want to work with a coach or talk to a good friend:

A Coach is a professionally certified listening ear scheduled at regular intervals to help you learn how to be more focused, consistent, and accountable

A Friend listens as often as they can because that is what good friends do for each other

A Friendship is based on mutual support and concern

A Coach relationship is all about support and concern for what is important to you

A Coach partners with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential (This is the ICF Definition)

A Friend attaches to another person by feelings of affection, personal regard, mutual interests, and fun

A Friend may or may not keep the confidence of what you decide to share. A true friend can be trusted to do this. Often you will not know if they are a true friend until they show you otherwise

A Coach agrees to hold your confidence in the highest regard, creating a safe space for you to process your thoughts and feelings. This confidence is outlined in a client agreement

A Coach empowers you put systems and processes in place to help you achieve the results you want to create

A Friend makes great suggestions for what has worked for them or someone they know. They may even be willing to “walk with you” through building new habits

A Friend becomes and important part of your tribal circle of support

A Coach helps you assess and build your tribal circle of support

A Coach relationship is designed to end

A Friendship is designed to last

A good friend and a good coach both provide a soft safe place for you to land, hope, dream, heal, laugh, cry, & be yourself. If you are thinking of hiring a coach to be a friend, there are better ways to throw away your money. If you are using your friend as a coach, this may explain why they are sending your calls straight to voicemail.

If you are still not sure if you need a friend or a coach, call me and let’s talk about it 703.405.2029.

Love, Peace, & Happiness,
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™